November
06
00:15
Children

How to teach a child to order?

actually need to see around them clean, to clean the room appears in children quite late.Actually, by the time they are no longer children and even teenagers.The desire to clean up the most naturally formed usually after adolescence, and often - only when a person starts a family and build their own home.As long as the child lives in the territory of adults and, whether we like it or not - occupies a subordinate position, it is no way around it is not responsible.And that's fine.Of course, each of us can remember a couple of examples from the lives of friends and acquaintances, whose families live akkuratisty children, parents matter of pride and envy of others.But it is rather an exception to the rule.These kids from an early age love to set the record straight and put things in order not through proper education, but only by reason of the nature.It's usually the little pedants with a pronounced phlegmatic temperament.

downside here is the fear of any breach of the usual course of events, a departure

from the rules and a lack of spontaneity in behavior, lack of initiative and inability recklessly given to play with their peers.Children who with passion and fun to play, can not, quit the game, sharply back to the boring everyday life, so the toys remain where they were left.

So, dear parents, before the "run down" on their children about the carelessness and the desire to turn everything into chaos, remember: the reluctance to restore order - this is the age norm, while the presence of such skills rather pleasant exception.But this does not mean that the dream to teach your child to the order must be forgotten until better times.Simply aim your training in this area will sound a bit different: whether to ease the parents (namely himself) lives, and if so, how?Of course, they can.We need to start really early - from 2-3 years.Only it must be remembered, first, that, as mentioned above, and, secondly, firmly abide by a few rules, which we shall discuss below.

Rule one

As you know, the natural distinction of clean and uncollected child does not have the room.Therefore, based on statements like, "Look, how are you in the room is dirty!This should not be! "Useless.Child aged 2-4 years if they agree to do something "as big", only "buying" on the motive of imitation, and you need your approval, desire to be an adult.That is what you and is based in the desire to bring the baby orderly.It should be a game, imitation of your adult actions, and act together.Mom washes the floor - even the kid fiddled with a cloth on the floor, wash the dishes my grandmother - and let him hold something that is hard to beat, even with very strong desire.Pope vacuuming - let the kid hold the handle of the vacuum cleaner next to Dad's big hands.Or let presses the power button on the vacuum cleaner - it is generally a continuous delight at this age.Just put the child beside him and show that and how to do (basic mechanism of education in this age - imitation).Personal example is much more effective than many instructive stories about the "good and bad children."But there is one little "but".Schooling to any skills presupposes them and other family members.If the house is found in order, sooner or later a child naturally tighten to this level of personal habits.If the "working disorder" in your home - business as usual, and the floors are cleaned from time to time, it is unlikely the baby is hypocritical to call to order: it will only react to what he sees, "in fact".

second rule

If possible, it is best to limit the territory in which the child is allowed to play, delete the kitchen, bathroom, bedroom of parents, their desktops.Each family member should have his own territory, and the baby - including.In addition, the area from which you have to collect toys, markedly reduced.

Rule Three

Cleaning should not interrupt the child's play, or prevent them from continuing.For us it is just a game, and for the child - the most important thing in life, take it with respect.If it is left on the floor of the unfinished castle out of blocks, it would be wrong to remove - it means to interrupt the creative process that can not be resumed.It is inappropriate to start work at home if the child away, or tear it from some interesting lessons.In this case, cleaning will have a negative emotional connotation, it is unlikely that will benefit you and your child.

If you set about cleaning the nursery, it is better not to do so in the absence of a child or without his participation.It is clear that his contribution will be still small and more will try to remind all dirty again.Be patient: the joint action are very important, the baby should not create the impression that someone will perform his duties for him.Do not scold him, he tries as you can.On the contrary - as often as possible praise little helper for any fines in the process of cleaning.Even if he just keeps bag of toys, until you get them to fold or would get something rolled under the sofa that it is difficult to get an adult.And be sure to tell your child that without it you would not have coped.

It would be nice to fix the child one or more cases in a family that carries only one.Let this be a certain flower that should be regularly watered, or shelf in the room, which only child entrusted to dust.This is a very important step.The child finally starts to feel "adult" in the difficult task of maintaining the purity, getting used to the idea that there are things that must be done continuously.

Finally, the last piece of advice: do not expect immediate results, do not expect a quick effect in raising accuracy of a small child.The motto of this important and complex cases probably sounds like "Wait for an answer."If done correctly, the "answer" you probably will wait.