Chёtkiepravila penalties and bonuses
Firstly, to toddler perestalkapriznichat for any reason, it is necessary that he had a clear schedule dnya.Mnogie mom ever regret their children are allowed to eat when they want othing want, later put to bed in the morning can regret not take vsadik.This is fundamentally wrong.The child needs to know when and what he obyazansdelat.At the age of four or five years old, the children, of course, no slishkomserёznyh obligations.But at least he has the most elementary vypolnyatbez whims: there are healthy foods (but not those that love), go to sleep vopredelёnnoe time to collect their toys.If a kid refuses to do so, it is not necessary to pay attention to his cries and tears.Conversely, if it cries, it's best to ignore the tantrum.The fact that this behavior detiprivlekayut attention parents.If the tantrum passes all the faces, you can prigrozitrebёnku and explained that he needed to calm down, otherwise he does not recieve anything.By the way, as soon as it is wor
Remember that no matter how the baby did not cry and kindly, it is not necessary to beat him.Corporal punishment - it is the last thing.Tomuzhe, it is unlikely you will hit a son or daughter so much that he remembered he had a fear of Yiwu, and as you know, education, based on fear, privoditk that kids just grow up and start to play in front of their parents primernyhchad, and behind him are doingwhat they want.Therefore, always try to have a child restraint inakazyvat not physically, but in a way that he realized horosheepovedenie - a guarantee that the mother would do his will.But plohoe- main cause of failures.
In many families where young parents live vmestis grandparents spoiling children begins loving granny.In etomnet not surprising, because it is their favorite grandchildren, they want otdatvsё.Besides, my grandmother has more life experience, so be sure that they know best how to raise children.As a result, the baby understands that eslimama and dad something forbidden, you can always run to her grandmother and pozhalovatsyaey.And she not only what is allowed and will still blame the parents for what onibesserdechnye.
If your mother-in-law chose this modelpovedeniya, should talk to her.The fact that the child is very pagubnovliyaet constant criticism towards his parents.He decides that their modelpovedeniya wrong, and it is simply no longer pay attention naroditelskoe opinion.Of course, the conversation with my grandmother certainly not be easy, since she was sure that he was right.So do not argue with her, cursing and screaming.Just try to explain it with examples, what privoditpotakanie whims.For example, a child does not want to go to bed.Mom zapretilaemu watch cartoons, and a good grandmother, to which he also ran crying sazu -razreshila.But then certainly there comes the same situation, which already babushkanachinaet swear and to punish the child.At this point, remind her that it resulted ktakomu its behavior.Of course, do not expect that my grandmother senses immediately.However, if ever, but it is not without reproach osobonavyazchivo tell her error, she eventually realizes and although bychastichno cease to indulge the child.
Say "no" pretense "it is small»
The last major mistake upbringing - is lyubovroditeley write off everything that "it is small."Of course, the baby - it rebёnok.Poetomu nobody makes him five years to carry bags and carry vsyurabotu the house.But if it is small, it does not mean that it is necessary for him vsёdelat.The kid must always carry basic things that match egovozrastu.Especially if you know that he can do it yourself, just lazy.For example, a four-year child should always otnositposudu himself in the sink, wash yourself and brush your teeth, get dressed, ubiratsvoi toys.If he is not performing, you should not write it off on vozrast.Vash kid lazy and just waiting for you to do everything for him.And if vovremyane stop, the way it will continue.Then the parents solve problems and pishutsochineniya, draw pictures, and sew, and children, meanwhile, are sitting with his hands folded ipovtoryayut: "I can not do it for me" .tak that if you do not want to grow lazy and an egotist, a stricter and adequately nauchitesbytto assess the possibility of their child.And then vashmalysh grow smart, responsible and strong man.