December
04
17:00
Relations

Should I meet with a lone father?

Of course, you can immediately say that is because you like him.But when you bind life with a lone parent, you need to think not only about his feelings as a child.

That's why some women feel that is not worth dating singles fathers.You might ask: why not worth it, because you love children and treat them well?Of course, to love their children - is very good.But we also love cats and dogs.That's only if the pet did something wrong, you yell at him to let go of the cuff and do not pay attention.With a child you can not do that.Especially when it is a stranger.Yes, it does not hurt as it sounds, but you need more than one month, a guy you could totally trust your child.Remember that if a man took over this responsibility, like raising a son or daughter, he really loves him and wants to replace the mother in every way.So the guy subconsciously protects the child from those who might offend him.

course you think you are incapable of this, but it seems at first glance.Understand that if you are planning a

serious relationship, then you will need to share responsibility for bringing up baby.And this is not easy.When a child is two or three years and it has only one parent, the baby just live without it can not.Most likely, unconsciously he is afraid of being abandoned, because he feels that his family is not complete.Therefore, it is his dad, and only at authority.Of course, young children quickly get used to strangers.And as quickly wean.Therefore, you should be prepared for the fact that at the beginning, at every meeting you afraid the baby will cry and hide behind his father.But when he finally snaps to you, that if you are a man parted, the child will receive a new trauma.Never forget that.

Also, you must realize that a serious relationship with a single father meant that you will ever take an active part in the upbringing of his child.By the way, you have no right to be considered a child only "his".Guided by this view, women, when they get tired of the responsibility for someone else's baby, begin to speak to his father that the child is his, and he has to deal with them.So do not be.If you start dating a guy who has a child, so you take this baby in your life.So think about it, if you have enough strength and patience to raise a child is not his home, but to treat him as if he were a native.Can you not yell at him on every occasion, be patient, wise and prudent.If you feel you can not cope with such a problem, how would you not like a guy better not to tie a relationship with him.Most likely, in any case they will end in failure, because the man does not want to tolerate the neglect of his child and he will be the initiator of the gap.In order not to injure the psyche him yourself and your child, it is better to give up on such a relationship.

Problems may otherwise occur when the child is older.In this case, many children exhibit selfishness and begin to convince the Pope that they do not need someone else's aunt.So if your man is a son or daughter, you should be prepared for a large portion of the negative.Your task will be to win the love and confidence of the child.But this is not so easy.Remember that you have to endure, and swallow a lot of hard feelings, to restrain themselves, rather than to assert their rights.Children who are used to living with only one parent, which, of course, give them a lot of attention, do not want to now the Pope drew attention more for someone.Therefore, you have to prove day after day your child that you deserve love and his dad are not going to take anything from him.Of course, eventually the child you recognize, but the path to this result can be a lot longer than you expect.That is why it is necessary to adequately assess their strength, capabilities and patience.You must remember that this boy or girl, in fact, do not want to cause you harm.Just triggered their psychological defense and blame child it is not necessary.If you feel that you can not put up with this state of affairs, will scream and hurt the baby, then to retreat immediately.

In addition to these two issues with the children there are also others that also affect the relationship with fathers householder.That's why, before you start something serious with a guy, you have to treat yourself pragmatic and realistic.Only when you realize that it is ready to sacrifice his child cooperate for many than they are now, and have not gonna back down, you can start a relationship with a man.In fact, if you can love it baby, put in his soul and really consider their own, then you can be a real happy family, and all the problems that arise at the beginning, then you will remember with a smile.